Tabletop manners or table etiquette refers to decent behavior during game time and having respect for everyone involved in the game. It is similar to many other etiquettes that you would respect, for example in a cinema, restaurant or at a conference, so it really doesn’t involve learning a lot of new things.
Having said that, some things need to be emphasized and some specific tabletop manners that are unique to the role-playing experience. Whether you’re playing Dungeons & Dragons, Call of Cthulhu, Cyberpunk 2020, or any other roleplaying game, one of the most important components of the game is making sure everyone has a good time.
To that end, I’ve compiled a brief set of “rules” to assist in keeping a game on course, whether you’re a new player just starting or an experienced roleplaying veteran who may have forgotten some of these concepts, and to ensure the most positive and entertaining game possible.
Tabletop game manners
When it comes to manners while playing the game, there are some basics I believe anyone should remember and always think about:
The most important thing is that everyone has a great time
Sometimes, your team won’t consist of similar people, so some adapting will be required from everyone’s side to have a pleasant and fun evening. Keep in mind that some players maybe aren’t as experienced as you or just enjoy a different playstyle.
So, try to empathize with them and accept that they can have fun in some ways you don’t see.
You’re playing a team game, think about the others
In RPGs, you shouldn’t forget that you are all a team. Whatever you do affects others. So don’t focus all your in-game actions on your personal gain, instead try and assist others for a better overall experience.
For instance, when I was in a DnD combat as a Cleric, I was faced with a choice to either use my turn to attack the giant crab we were facing or help a friend who was being held by that monster and try to free him. The latter would be the tabletop manner choice.
Don’t cross-talk or interrupt people, especially the Game Master (GM)
People would often get into the narration of their character or try to explain something that they are doing, and if you crack a joke in the middle of that scene, you might ruin it for that person.
The same goes for the GM, only when you interrupt him you are potentially ruining the experience for everybody. Be mindful of people’s role-playing and try not to break their train of thought.
Pay attention to what other players are doing and plan your actions before your turn
Listening carefully to others while they play and planning your moves ahead of time can help create much more efficient gameplay for the whole night. Most people meet once a week or once in a couple of weeks for RPG games, so they’re really happy when they make use of that time as efficiently as possible.
If you have any complaint or disagreement, resolve it outside the game (before or after you play)
It should go without saying that you shouldn’t bring any outside grudges you might have with someone into the game. Resolve your issues before or after the gam,e and don’t involve others in your conflict.
Social interactions
Social interactions should be in line with certain expectations as well. So, before anythin,g make sure you are there on time. Since role-playing games are team games, a lot of people need to fix their schedules in order to be in the same place at the same time. Failing to regularly arrive on time is a sign of disrespect to everybody involved.
Also, don’t use your smartphone for chatting or browsing the web while playing. Paying attention to the storyline of others and their moves is just as important as playing your character.
I didn’t say “smartphones are off-limits” because even in my own games there is a big need for phones, especially for new players.
There are apps and online guides that help new players familiarize themselves with some of the rules, spells, and characters. And this isn’t reserved for beginners. If someone has been playing a Fighter for a long time and now decides to switch to Wizard, they will have to remind themselves of the features of their new class as well as what they can and can’t do.
Moreover, some people who usually have problems with socializing with others (or kids who are now building up their socialization skills) can be helped by playing tabletop games. You can guide them and help them understand how to best respect others
Food and snacks
Your host isn’t a hotel and you shouldn’t expect that he should provide food and drinks for everybody. Communicate beforehand and make arrangements for who should bring what.
There are no official RPG snack rules, and every team decides what they are going to eat. I’ve played with people who like to cook something themselves and with those who prefer to order takeout or just have some light snacks.
If you will be eating something greasy, maybe you should have a snack break instead of eating while playing. Greasy food and shared dice, pens, cards, and other game materials don’t go hand in hand.
Everybody is here to have a good time
In the end, everybody should be reminded from time to time that the goal of the whole game night is for everyone to have fun. Keep the communication open and respectful, listen to each other, and resolve any minor issues, if possible, before the game begins.
Have our tabletop manners in mind and you will have a lot of exciting and enjoyable experiences in the future!
